Relationship Talks
BE THE BEST VERSION OF YOU…
No matter how close someone is to you, they will never completely know you.
They will only know THEIR VERSION of you and this version of you is based upon the things they know about you, mixed with how they want you to think, feel and behave, and with every experience they’ve had in their own lives woven together to form their personal filter.
While people’s perceptions of you are important for a variety of reasons (i.e. attracting a mate, acceptance within friend groups, family cohesion, promotion in the workplace, etc.), It’s important to realize that not everyone is able or even desirous of seeing you objectively for who you are, nor for how you’d like for them to try and see you.
Learning to recognize when someone is committed to the version of you that they have created could have profound benefit to your mental health and wellness.
Always remember, it is not your job to;
- “MAKE” people like you…
- “MAKE” them understand you…
- “MAKE” them change their minds about you…
Truth is, you can’t “MAKE” anyone else do anything – they are 100% in control of their choices no matter how hard you try to influence them, so spare yourself the anguish of trying to have anyone see you the way you wish they would.
Instead of trying to influence how other people see you, focus on how you want to see yourself for your OWN happiness.
What version of you makes you feel Whole, Happy, Healthy and Complete?
When you start living your life more consistently the way you want to live it, you will automatically begin to attract and choose members of your tribe as opposed to a bunch of folks you are not genuinely compatible with, which will perpetually enhance your genuineness and your support in being who you are.
So many people swear they know you, but the fact of the matter is that they don’t really know you at all. They know a version of you that THEY have created in their own mind, based upon their own filters and much of that has nothing to do with you.
Sometimes their narrative works in our favor. At other times, it works against us.
The key is not to place too much stock in their version of you one way or the other, but instead focus on the way you see yourself and constantly work to make sure it is in alignment with who YOU want to be. Otherwise, you’ll find yourself being held hostage to the million different versions of you that the world holds.
Cheers to showing up as your authentic self!!!..
ALSO READ; TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS…https://thehelenmedia.com/toxic-relationships/