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EASY WAYS TO AVOID PREGNANCY

The only completely reliable method for avoiding pregnancy is abstaining from sex.

However, people who are sexually active and want to avoid pregnancy should be aware of their options when it comes to birth control.

A person risks becoming pregnant every time they have sex without contraception including the first time they have sex.

EASY WAYS TO AVOID PREGNANCY

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Some methods are available without a prescription, but most require one. Each form of birth control has advantages and disadvantages.

BARRIER METHODS

Barrier method is used to prevent sperm from reaching the egg. They include;

1. DIAPHRAGM

A diaphragm is a barrier method of contraception that a person places inside the vagina.

Insert the diaphragm a few hours before intercourse,leave it in place for 6 hours after sex and remove after 24 hours.

KNOW THE DOS AND DON’TS OF YOUR DIAPHRAGM

-Apply Spermicide first.                          

-Avoid oil- based creams

-Check it for holes,tears and leaks often

– After inserting it,check the placement

a. If you can feel your cervix through the dome, its out of place. Take it out and insert it again.

b. If it’s above your pubic bone,redo it.

c. If it falls out when you cough,sit down or walk,redo it.

2. MALE CONDOMS

Male and female condoms are the only types of contraception that protect against sexually transmitted infections (STIs)

Male condoms are more than 80 percent effective against pregnancy when used correctly.

To use correctly:

a. Choose the correct size

b. Place the condom on the head of the erect penis

c. Pinch the tip of the condom to remove air

d.Unroll the condom down the penis

e. After inter course,hold the base of the condom in place before pulling out of the vagina.

f. Remove and dispose. Never reuse a condom

3.CERVICAL CAP

A cervical cap is a soft silicon cup that is placed deep inside the Vagina. It covers the cervix to stop sperm from reaching an egg.

Its effectiveness ranges from about 70-85 percent. It does not protect against STIs.

4. FEMALE CONDOMS

Female condoms are also available without a prescription. They can be used instead of a male condom but should never be used with one.

According to CDC,female condoms are about 79 percent effective for contraception.

5.SPONGE

The contraceptive sponge can be bought without a prescription. Made of polyurethane foam and containing spermicide,the sponge is placed deep inside the vagina to block entry to the uterus.

HORMONAL METHODS

Hormonal forms of birth control prevents conception by stopping Ovulation,which is the release of an egg from the ovaries.

They include:

6. CONTRACEPTIVE PILLS

There are various brands of pill available and according to the National Health Service (NHS) in the UK,they are over 99 percent effective if taken as prescribed.

There are two forms of the pill:

a. The combined pill which contains Estrogen and Progestin. When taking these pills,a person will have a monthly period.

b. The mini pill which contains only progestin. A person must take this pill at the same time every day without a break.

7. IMPLANTS

A Nurse or Doctor inserts a match stick rod into a person’s arm against pregnancy.

Implants work by releasing the hormone progestin into the body,which prevents Ovulation. It must be replaced every 3 years.

8. VAGINAL RING

This small,plastic ring is placed on the Vagina for 3 weeks. It releases hormones into the body to prevent pregnancy.

The ring must be removed for 7 days to allow for a menstrual period before inserting a new ring.

9. PATCH

A patch can be placed on the back,buttocks,stomach, upper arm. It puts progestin and estrogen into the bloodstream. You’ll put a new one on every 3 weeks before removing it for 1 week to allow for a menstrual period.

10. INJECTIONS

The contraceptive shot is usually given by a doctor every 12 weeks. According to the CDC,when used correctly and assuming that a person gets their shot on time,it is over 90 percent effective although it may take up to 10 months or sometime longer for fertility to return to normal after a person stops getting the shot.

FEW FACTS ABOUT EMERGENCY CONTRACEPTION (EC)

– EC can give you a second chance to prevent pregnancy after sex

-EC will not cause birth defects if you are already pregnant.

-EC may cause some unpleasant side effects like headache, nausea

-EC will not hurt you or stop your ability to get pregnant in the future.

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My Husband is 20 to 30 years older than me, some says I married him for his money but I work and make my own money – Oluwatobi Uzoma Adams

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Relationship  can be a complicated part of life. From where and how you meet somebody, to developing connections, to overcoming hurdles and bridging gaps, to getting married. there are all kinds of things to worry about from the beginning. Adding racial, age difference  and cultural differences to the mix may be a big deal to some, especially when there are historical tensions between the race of one person in the relationship and the race of the other person.

Not all individuals or couples see dating outside their race as being an issue, however. It can be as easy as simply finding someone that you click with and become attracted to, especially if mutual respect exists between the individuals in the relationship. We The Helen Media spoke with Mrs Oluwatobi Uzoma Adams  who is currently in interracial marriage and asked her some questions about her experience.

 

Can we get to know you?

My Husband is 20 to 30 years older than me, some say I married him for his money but I work and I make my own money - Oluwatobi Uzoma Adams

My name is Oluwatobi uzoma Adams, I am from Ekiti state. Am a wife and mother.

How did you meet your husband  and what attracted you to him?

I met my husband in 2019 on line, I was playing with my phone that day and decide to download some dating site, then I found him, sent him a message and now lol 😂.


Did you have any hesitations about dating outside your race, and how did your family feel? Did your partner feel accepted by them?

oh yes I did at first, but after my first experience, I didn’t care I just wanted a family, I wanted to love again, and I had something to prove to my self and the world. Yes I was scared but love overcomes all things, I was already in love with his smiles. his smile 😊 wow, and I was extremely curious to know him more. lol!
My family was not happy about it at first, they could only see the age difference, but deep down I knew what I needed was is smile and courage, all I needed was him to keep loving me without fail, because I was in a dark place that period, honestly my husband saved my life, yes my husband feels accepted by my family, because  I remember the first day they spoke, my mum and my dad loves, adore respects him. I have not seen anyone who comes in contact with my husband and not admire his person. He is just a loving person and his smiles and gentile words are so contagious


Have your past disappointments with dating your own race lead you to date outside your race? 
Wouldn’t it be easier to date your own race?

Yes and no, past disappointment might have lead me to go searching but I found a great man, a wonderful husband and the best father to my child, I will never ever in any life time to come date or marry anyone apart from my husband.

 

Is there any age difference? How many years?

My Husband is 20 to 30 years older than me, some say I married him for his money but I work and I make my own money - Oluwatobi Uzoma Adams

Yes there is a age difference between us 2 to 3 decades


How do you feel and why did you get married to someone with so much age difference?

It’s takes someone who has been through what you have been through to understand my decision. Let’s just say age is just a number, and my husband and I met through fate, God sees my heart, he knew I needed a strong man, wise, and caring. he gave me him.
I feel normal, got married to him because I love him, what other reason to marry a man. we going 2 years now and I am left to wonder when the honey moon face will be over. Lol


Due to the age difference, How is your sexual life ? Is there a difference in the intimacy ?

Let’s just say our sex life is great 👍. my husband is extremely man enough in that department, I give him a excellent score, yep hubby knows it all but we connect, and I let him lead, new things to be thought everyday right?


How do you deal with condescending  comments from people because of the age gap

My Husband is 20 to 30 years older than me, some say I married him for his money but I work and I make my own money - Oluwatobi Uzoma Adams

Ignore them, some say I married him for his money  but I work and I make my own money. etc


Has the age difference created any barrier in your  marriage?!..eg- communication

Nop but language has, he calls me an old soul, am wiser than my age. But we love different things, he doesn’t force me to do anything, so it’s easy eg when he is watching tv star strek, I will excuse my self to the room to watch cartoons, we respect each other privacy and we understand the ground rules to a successful marriage, communication.


Will you allow your daughter HONESTLY marry someone with this  age gap?

My Husband is 20 to 30 years older than me, some say I married him for his money but I work and I make my own money - Oluwatobi Uzoma Adams

If that’s what she wants why not, my mum and dad has 2 decades between them, my dad treat her like an angel, my dad will sit outside till my mum comes back from a long journey, he won’t sleep until he sees his wife so why not if that’s what she wants.


How do you keep the fire burning in your  marriage

New things everyday, lol. our love is real so we don’t have to do much but we communicate, we find something we can both love to do and we are considering of each other feelings, we don’t sleep with anger in our heart, we tell each other how much we love each other several times in a day , we forgive each other if need be and we talk things through.


Please describe your husband in few sentence.

My husband is the most caring, kindhearted , loving , easy to talk to and the love of my life.


What has been your greatest joy ever since you got married to him?

The day We got married and the day we held our first child .


What has been your  greatness fear as a interracial couple?

My Husband is 20 to 30 years older than me, some say I married him for his money but I work and I make my own money - Oluwatobi Uzoma Adams

I have no fear with my husband by my side but racism is a major factor.


Do you have any to say to people who will love to get married to other race ?

Follow your heart ❤️


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How to Strengthen family bonds when you’re staying at home

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By keeping families at home, the Coronavirus did something special to families that have been distant. It provided them with time enough to strengthen their bond. (Well, for those who see it that way.)

I’m not a doctor or a psychologist, but I know what the feeling is to have strong family bonds. It’s one that intoxicates —I experienced it! Yes, I did. Due to the pandemic’s hit, a lot of activities became remote, even working. And it took me home, where I learnt the tips I’m about sharing.

Home should be where your family is; the house, where they are contained, and your heart, the foundation on which love thrives. You make your family stronger through bonds: father-daughter bond, the mother-to-son bond, couples bond, and all other ones your thoughts are coming up with. But, how do you do this?

Known factors that promote bond strengthening aren’t far from reach but are mostly overlooked. Read on, and I’ll reveal some subtle ways to strengthen family bond when you’re staying at home. If well implemented, it would add  core to the bond in your family, even when you do not stay at home all of the time.

My definition of a home might seem absurd, but it’s quite relatable: It’s a place where your heart is and finds peace. One very big challenge faced in building bonds (with your family or anyone at all) is the issue of placing your heart where it should be..

“My family is my life, and everything else comes second as far as what’s important to me.” — Michael Imperioli

Once this wall of priority has been built, it becomes very much easier to carry out all that you’ll knead or knit for yourself from this piece.

 

1. RELISH THE TIME.

How to Strengthen family bonds when you’re staying at home
Never wish you spent a little more time at work. More importantly, never wish you spent a little more time with your family. Okay, pause. What this means is to give more time to your family, and to ensure their happiness while you can. Nothing can be substituted with this.

2. LOOSEN UP
If really you’re working towards strengthening bonds, then you have to know and understand every member of your family better. This is a cheat-fix for you: you do not have to be rigid in your approach all of the time; let there be an atmosphere of camaraderie around you. Loosen up sometimes.
Inasmuch as you want to build a family where respect is upheld, you should understand that respect is not demanded; it is earned. Respect and Trust actually. In other words, the more you are free with every member; the more you gain their trust; the more their real self is portrayed and understood. This understanding, amongst every member, is what gives strength to individual and collective bonds.

3. GET CREATIVE
Spice is what every member of the family brings to the table, so don’t forget to add yours. Get creative!
– Give Gifts. Who doesn’t like the sound of that? No one outgrows being delighted with a gift. Or have you? On your next outing, you should try this. Get something out of the usual. Even if it’s a pack of cupcakes for the family.

4. DO THINGS TOGETHER.

How to Strengthen family bonds when you’re staying at home

The little things you do today accumulate to form every bit of memory you have of and for yourselves. Be sure to take advantage of the moment. There are countless things you can do together as a family, and you do not want them to slide by.

Below, I’ve put together some of the myriads that there are (you can always add to the list in the comment section):
– Eat (out) together.
– Play together. (Not all lessons are learned from being stone-faced. More on this below)
– Pray together. A family that prays together, stays together. Well, most families.
– See movies together.
– Cook, and create new recipes.
– Assignments
– Picnics
– Jog and walks
– Exercise

5. GET DISCUSSING

Give room for every member to voice out without being shunned. You want to create an impression that you are a good listener and not just a dictator. If possible, create time to meet with every member separately to ask about their wellbeing, and spend time knowing how their day went.

Discuss. At the table, about issues. Let everyone speak their mind, and give room for corrections. This fosters the feeling that everyone has an opinion in the family building. And when correcting, do so in love. When you talk about the challenges and discuss the possible solutions, then you can come up with family goals that will address those problems.

6. BE ATTENTIVE
Laying aside the hypothetical bias that boys are drawn to their mothers and girls, to their fathers. The real magnet is the care and attention given by one side and received by the other. Everybody likes attention. The same way you like being heard is the same way your family craves it, and how you give it should not come with any bias – it will be noticed.

Pay attention to details, from the smallest to the biggest. Like the fact that your child doesn’t like being called by a particular pet name, or your spouse enjoys the eat-outs on Sunday evenings. These tiny things will guarantee you an understanding of your family. Trust me!

7. STAY IN TOUCH
Relationships are built on communication, effective communication. This must exist between you and your spouse, as well as other members of the family –even the baby in the womb. Never underestimate the power of physical touch in communication. Even the unborn child appreciates this (when it kicks, and the stomach is caressed), talk more grownups.
If your son would not refuse a kiss to his head, I bet your spouse would not refuse a massage! More importantly, when you’re away from home, Call. Text. Video call.

8. HAVE FUN

How to Strengthen family bonds when you’re staying at home

The Olorunfemi Family.

As much as you can, reduce screen time when you are at home so as to maximize your family time (even if it’s just during family meals). Yes, drop that device! One of the many practical things you can do together is having fun. Let your kids see you as their play buddy too.

Being friends with your kids is a surety when they know you create time for fun. You are not a bore! Don’t let your spouse see you as one around the kids. Integration is important, and what better way to do so than this?

You should try these out:
– Create a mini cinema in your living room, and stretch a day into the night because of it.
– Draw together, homework too.- Read to each other.
– Go on spontaneous trips (Out of the blues!)
– Games and sports (Card games, board games, soccer, and more)

– Little contests. (Staring contest, dancing. Mannequin challenge, amongst the lots.)
– Make funny family videos, and take photographs.
– Plant a mini garden. If you know little, you can learn from your kids. (You can use that avenue to teach them life and growth principles.)
– Family parties. Weekend getaways.
– Learn an instrument, sing along, and play together.

“Your family and your love must be cultivated like a garden. Time, effort, and imagination must be summoned constantly to keep any relationship flourishing and growing.” – Jim Rohn
Phew! Seems like a lot?

Here’s how you begin. You begin by stepping back from that wonderful computer screen and pulling your mind off of your devices to your family. Hey! At the end of the day, you’re not just strengthening your family bond, you’re building a strong family.

The words of Leon Ho, founder, and CEO of Lifehack, on setting family goals would make for my subscript:

“Keep in mind that when setting your family goals, your ultimate objectives will be to build a strong, healthy, and happy family. Being strong means that your family is bonded firmly together and that every member feels important and connected to the family.”

What you just read is a sure-fire way to building and strengthening the family bond. It’s proven because it worked for me. Was this insightful? Leave a comment below!

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8 Warning signs your partner is secretly unhappy

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When our relationships are great, we feel happy, assured, and empowered. But what if you suspect that your partner is… unhappy?

The sad truth is that sometimes, no matter what we do, your partner can secretly feel unhappy about the relationship you’re in.

And because most people tend to avoid conflicts, it is very likely that your partner won’t be willing to share about it.

If you are concerned that something is missing from your relationship, here are a few signs your partner is unhappy or at least irritated. Let’s take a look.

1. Your Partner Keeps Reminding You Of The Past Issues

A tell-tale sign that your partner is unhappy is the tendency to fight over the past problems or something that you’ve done in the past.

This can happen when your partner is unhappy AND unconsciously looking for a way to justify these feelings by creating a fight where there shouldn’t be one.

2. Your Partner Has Unexplained Mood Swings

If your partner seems to be happy at the moment but transforms into a grumpy or angry person shortly after and without a particular reason, it might be a sign of ongoing inner conflict. Specialists believe this happens because of a person’s inability to discuss what makes him or her unhappy and it results in one being sensitive and irritated. Unexplained bursts of anger can also signal that your partner is unhappy and tired of giving effort for your relationship.

3. Your Partner Gives You Silent Treatments

If you used to be the couple who couldn’t wait to chit-chat about their day-to-day activities, silent treatment, or something that closely resembles it could also be a sign that your partner is unhappy. In it’s purest form, a silent treatment will follow after a fight and last for a pretty long time, but it can happen even without a fight.

4. Your Partner Does Not Listen To You

If you are trying to resolve a problem and your partner shuts you off, it might be a sign that your partner is unhappy – he is just not interested to find a mutual consensus. Yet, even though it might seem like a mission impossible, re-engaging in a conversation could be really helpful here.

5. Your Partner Talks About His / Her Colleagues… A Lot

No one is happy to hear their partner constantly chatting about those “awesome coworkers”… But since we spend most of our time in workplaces, it happens quite often. Noticing that your partner can’t stop talking about colleagues can be a sign that’s something is missing in your relationship and it makes your loved one focus on other people.

6. Your Partner Compulsively Buys Unnecessary Stuff

Some studies observed that men, just like women, are prone to compulsive shopping and they do it when they feel unhappy in some part of their life, including their relationships. A sudden burst of new purchases might also be a sign that your partner is unhappy or unsure about the commitment to your relationship (therefore seeks value in possessions).

7. Your Partner Forgets (?) To Apologize

When your partner is unhappy, he can seem to forget to apologize after you’ve had a fight or disagreement. Yes, it’s pretty weird to feel that someone forgot to say “sorry”, especially if that person was the one who started a fight. Mostly, it happens when a partner believes that there is nothing else to do about the situation or still feels angry inside even though the problem is sorted out.

8. Your Partner Hides His / Her Phone
This is more than a sign that your partner is unhappy… It might tell you that your partner is looking for someone else. Being extremely careful with one’s smartphone could mean that your partner is trying to hide something and it’s one of the most important signs your partner is unhappy.

 


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