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EASY WAYS TO AVOID PREGNANCY

The only completely reliable method for avoiding pregnancy is abstaining from sex.

However, people who are sexually active and want to avoid pregnancy should be aware of their options when it comes to birth control.

A person risks becoming pregnant every time they have sex without contraception including the first time they have sex.

EASY WAYS TO AVOID PREGNANCY

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Some methods are available without a prescription, but most require one. Each form of birth control has advantages and disadvantages.

BARRIER METHODS

Barrier method is used to prevent sperm from reaching the egg. They include;

1. DIAPHRAGM

A diaphragm is a barrier method of contraception that a person places inside the vagina.

Insert the diaphragm a few hours before intercourse,leave it in place for 6 hours after sex and remove after 24 hours.

KNOW THE DOS AND DON’TS OF YOUR DIAPHRAGM

-Apply Spermicide first.                          

-Avoid oil- based creams

-Check it for holes,tears and leaks often

– After inserting it,check the placement

a. If you can feel your cervix through the dome, its out of place. Take it out and insert it again.

b. If it’s above your pubic bone,redo it.

c. If it falls out when you cough,sit down or walk,redo it.

2. MALE CONDOMS

Male and female condoms are the only types of contraception that protect against sexually transmitted infections (STIs)

Male condoms are more than 80 percent effective against pregnancy when used correctly.

To use correctly:

a. Choose the correct size

b. Place the condom on the head of the erect penis

c. Pinch the tip of the condom to remove air

d.Unroll the condom down the penis

e. After inter course,hold the base of the condom in place before pulling out of the vagina.

f. Remove and dispose. Never reuse a condom

3.CERVICAL CAP

A cervical cap is a soft silicon cup that is placed deep inside the Vagina. It covers the cervix to stop sperm from reaching an egg.

Its effectiveness ranges from about 70-85 percent. It does not protect against STIs.

4. FEMALE CONDOMS

Female condoms are also available without a prescription. They can be used instead of a male condom but should never be used with one.

According to CDC,female condoms are about 79 percent effective for contraception.

5.SPONGE

The contraceptive sponge can be bought without a prescription. Made of polyurethane foam and containing spermicide,the sponge is placed deep inside the vagina to block entry to the uterus.

HORMONAL METHODS

Hormonal forms of birth control prevents conception by stopping Ovulation,which is the release of an egg from the ovaries.

They include:

6. CONTRACEPTIVE PILLS

There are various brands of pill available and according to the National Health Service (NHS) in the UK,they are over 99 percent effective if taken as prescribed.

There are two forms of the pill:

a. The combined pill which contains Estrogen and Progestin. When taking these pills,a person will have a monthly period.

b. The mini pill which contains only progestin. A person must take this pill at the same time every day without a break.

7. IMPLANTS

A Nurse or Doctor inserts a match stick rod into a person’s arm against pregnancy.

Implants work by releasing the hormone progestin into the body,which prevents Ovulation. It must be replaced every 3 years.

8. VAGINAL RING

This small,plastic ring is placed on the Vagina for 3 weeks. It releases hormones into the body to prevent pregnancy.

The ring must be removed for 7 days to allow for a menstrual period before inserting a new ring.

9. PATCH

A patch can be placed on the back,buttocks,stomach, upper arm. It puts progestin and estrogen into the bloodstream. You’ll put a new one on every 3 weeks before removing it for 1 week to allow for a menstrual period.

10. INJECTIONS

The contraceptive shot is usually given by a doctor every 12 weeks. According to the CDC,when used correctly and assuming that a person gets their shot on time,it is over 90 percent effective although it may take up to 10 months or sometime longer for fertility to return to normal after a person stops getting the shot.

FEW FACTS ABOUT EMERGENCY CONTRACEPTION (EC)

– EC can give you a second chance to prevent pregnancy after sex

-EC will not cause birth defects if you are already pregnant.

-EC may cause some unpleasant side effects like headache, nausea

-EC will not hurt you or stop your ability to get pregnant in the future.

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Vaginal Birth among Nigerian Females; Preparation & Delivery Basis, Child Birth Stages.

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Every delivery is as unique and individual as each mother and infant. In addition, women may have completely different experiences with each new labor and delivery. Giving birth is a life-changing event that will leave an impression on you for the rest of your life.

A vaginal birth is the “natural” way to deliver a baby. A vaginal delivery is the birth of offspring in mammals (babies in humans) through the vagina (also called the “birth canal”). It is the natural method of birth for all mammals except monotremes, which lay eggs.

For humans, the average length of a hospital stay for a normal vaginal delivery is 36–48 hours. Surgery extends that stay. With an episiotomy (a surgical cut to widen the vaginal canal) to enable vaginal birth, the stay is 48–60 hours. The length of stay for a Caesarean section (C-section), a common form of non -vaginal birth, is 72–108 hours.

 

 

Types of vaginal delivery

 

Different types of vaginal deliveries have different terms:

A spontaneous vaginal delivery (SVD) occurs when a pregnant female goes into labor without the use of drugs or techniques to induce labor, and delivers her baby in the normal manner, without forceps, vacuum extraction, or a cesarean section.

 

An assisted vaginal delivery (AVD) or instrumental vaginal delivery occurs when a pregnant female goes into labor (with or without the use of drugs or techniques to induce labor), and requires the use of special instruments such as forceps or a vacuum extractor to deliver her baby vaginally.

 

An induced vaginal delivery is a delivery involving labor induction, where drugs or manual techniques are used to initiate the process of labor. Use of the term “IVD” in this context is less common than for instrumental vaginal delivery.

A normal vaginal delivery (NVD) is a vaginal delivery, whether or not assisted or induced, usually used in statistics or studies to contrast with a delivery by cesarean section.

 

How to Prepare For a Vaginal Delivery as an Expectant Nigerian Mother

While it’s nearly impossible to plan for every aspect of your labor and delivery, you’ll likely appreciate feeling prepared. A few things to think through in advance of your vaginal birth:

 

  • Create your birth plan, so you and your practitioner are on the same page as to how you’d ideally like your birth to go down (keeping in mind, of course, that things rarely go exactly as planned)

 

  • Pack your hospital bag

 

  • Make a visit to the hospital or birthing center where you want to deliver

 

  • Take peek at a few common labor positions

 

  • Read up on breastfeeding basics, since you’ll most likely be able to give it a shot the moment your baby arrives

 

  • Know the signs of labor so you’ll be aware when baby’s almost here!

 

The Stages of a Vaginal Birth (CHILD BIRTH STAGE)

 

Early phases of labor

 

Amniotic sac: The amniotic sac is the fluid-filled membrane surrounding your baby. This sac will almost always rupture before the baby is born, though in some cases it remains intact until delivery. When it ruptures, it’s often described as your “water breaking.” In most cases, your water will break before you go into labor or at the very beginning of labor. Most women experience their water breaking as a gush of fluid. It should be clear and odorless — if it’s yellow, green, or brown, contact your doctor right away.

 

Contractions: Contractions are the tightening and releasing of your uterus. These motions will eventually help your baby push through the cervix. Contractions can feel like heavy cramping or pressure that begins in your back and moves to the front. Contractions aren’t a reliable indicator of labor. You might already have felt Braxton-Hicks contractions, which may have started as early as your second trimester. A general rule is that when you are having contractions that last for a minute, are five minutes apart, and have been so for an hour, you’re in true labor.

 

Cervix dilation: The cervix is the lowest part of the uterus that opens into the vagina. The cervix is a tubular structure approximately 3 to 4 centimeters in length with a passage that connects the uterine cavity to the vagina. During labor, the role of the cervix must change from maintaining the pregnancy (by keeping the uterus closed) to facilitating the delivery of the baby (by dilating, or opening, enough to allow the baby through. The fundamental changes that occur near the end of the pregnancy result in a softening of the cervical tissue and thinning of the cervix, both of which help prepare the cervix. True, active labor is considered to be underway when the cervix is dilated 3 centimeters or more.

 

Labor and delivery: Eventually, the cervical canal must open until the cervical opening itself has reached 10 centimeters in diameter and the baby is able to pass into the birth canal. As the baby enters the vagina, your skin and muscles stretch. The labia and perineum (the area between the vagina and the rectum) eventually reach a point of maximum stretching. At this point, the skin may feel like it’s burning. Some childbirth educators call this the ring of fire because of the burning sensation felt as the mother’s tissues stretch around the baby’s head. At this time, your healthcare provider may decide to perform an episiotomy. You may or may not feel the episiotomy because the skin and muscles can lose sensation due to how tightly they’re stretched.

 

The Birth: As the baby’s head emerges, there is a great relief from the pressure, although you’ll probably still feel some discomfort. Your nurse or doctor will ask you to stop pushing momentarily while the baby’s mouth and nose are suctioned to clear out amniotic fluid and mucus. It’s important to do this before the baby starts to breathe and cry. Usually, the doctor will rotate the baby’s head a quarter of a turn to be in alignment with the baby’s body, which is still inside you. You’ll then be asked to begin pushing again to deliver the shoulders. The top shoulder comes first and then the lower shoulder. Then, with one last push, you deliver your baby!

 

 

For women who deliver vaginally, childbirth progresses in three stages:

 

Stage 1: Labor

Labor itself is divided into three phases — early labor, active labor and transitional labor. All women who deliver vaginally will experience all three phases of labor, though you may not notice the first phase at all. The timing and intensity of contractions can help clue you in to which phase of labor you’re in, while periodic physical exams will confirm your progress.

 

Stage 2: Pushing and delivery of the baby

This is when your cervix reaches the magic 10 cm mark — meaning you’re fully dilated. Now it’s your turn to push your baby the rest of the way through the birth canal, unless you’re laboring down (in which case you’ll catch a break for a few minutes to an hour while your uterus does most of the work bringing baby farther down into the birth canal). You may wonder; does pushing hurt more than contractions? Most women actually find that transitional labor, or those last 2 to 3 cm of dilation, is the most demanding and intense phase of labor — but it’s fortunately also the shortest, usually lasting 15 minutes to an hour. As your baby crowns and you push him or her out, you will feel a tingling, stretching or burning sensation (it’s called the “ring of fire” for a reason).

 

Stage 3: Delivery of the placenta

The placenta and the amniotic sac that supported and protected the baby for nine months are still in the uterus after the delivery. These need to be delivered, and this can happen spontaneously or it may take as long as half an hour. Your midwife or doctor may rub your abdomen below your belly button to help tighten the uterus and loosen the placenta.

 

Your uterus is now about the size of a large grapefruit. You may need to push to help deliver the placenta. You may feel some pressure as the placenta is expelled but not nearly as much pressure as when the baby was born.

 

Your healthcare provider will inspect the delivered placenta to make sure it was delivered in full. On rare occasions, some of the placenta doesn’t release and may remain adhered to the wall of the uterus.

 

If this happens, your provider will reach into your uterus to remove the leftover pieces in order to prevent heavy bleeding that can result from a torn placenta. If you would like to see the placenta, please ask. Usually, they’ll be happy to show you.

 

 

 

 

 

 


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My Husband is 20 to 30 years older than me, some says I married him for his money but I work and make my own money – Oluwatobi Uzoma Adams

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Relationship  can be a complicated part of life. From where and how you meet somebody, to developing connections, to overcoming hurdles and bridging gaps, to getting married. there are all kinds of things to worry about from the beginning. Adding racial, age difference  and cultural differences to the mix may be a big deal to some, especially when there are historical tensions between the race of one person in the relationship and the race of the other person.

Not all individuals or couples see dating outside their race as being an issue, however. It can be as easy as simply finding someone that you click with and become attracted to, especially if mutual respect exists between the individuals in the relationship. We The Helen Media spoke with Mrs Oluwatobi Uzoma Adams  who is currently in interracial marriage and asked her some questions about her experience.

 

Can we get to know you?

My Husband is 20 to 30 years older than me, some say I married him for his money but I work and I make my own money - Oluwatobi Uzoma Adams

My name is Oluwatobi uzoma Adams, I am from Ekiti state. Am a wife and mother.

How did you meet your husband  and what attracted you to him?

I met my husband in 2019 on line, I was playing with my phone that day and decide to download some dating site, then I found him, sent him a message and now lol 😂.


Did you have any hesitations about dating outside your race, and how did your family feel? Did your partner feel accepted by them?

oh yes I did at first, but after my first experience, I didn’t care I just wanted a family, I wanted to love again, and I had something to prove to my self and the world. Yes I was scared but love overcomes all things, I was already in love with his smiles. his smile 😊 wow, and I was extremely curious to know him more. lol!
My family was not happy about it at first, they could only see the age difference, but deep down I knew what I needed was is smile and courage, all I needed was him to keep loving me without fail, because I was in a dark place that period, honestly my husband saved my life, yes my husband feels accepted by my family, because  I remember the first day they spoke, my mum and my dad loves, adore respects him. I have not seen anyone who comes in contact with my husband and not admire his person. He is just a loving person and his smiles and gentile words are so contagious


Have your past disappointments with dating your own race lead you to date outside your race? 
Wouldn’t it be easier to date your own race?

Yes and no, past disappointment might have lead me to go searching but I found a great man, a wonderful husband and the best father to my child, I will never ever in any life time to come date or marry anyone apart from my husband.

 

Is there any age difference? How many years?

My Husband is 20 to 30 years older than me, some say I married him for his money but I work and I make my own money - Oluwatobi Uzoma Adams

Yes there is a age difference between us 2 to 3 decades


How do you feel and why did you get married to someone with so much age difference?

It’s takes someone who has been through what you have been through to understand my decision. Let’s just say age is just a number, and my husband and I met through fate, God sees my heart, he knew I needed a strong man, wise, and caring. he gave me him.
I feel normal, got married to him because I love him, what other reason to marry a man. we going 2 years now and I am left to wonder when the honey moon face will be over. Lol


Due to the age difference, How is your sexual life ? Is there a difference in the intimacy ?

Let’s just say our sex life is great 👍. my husband is extremely man enough in that department, I give him a excellent score, yep hubby knows it all but we connect, and I let him lead, new things to be thought everyday right?


How do you deal with condescending  comments from people because of the age gap

My Husband is 20 to 30 years older than me, some say I married him for his money but I work and I make my own money - Oluwatobi Uzoma Adams

Ignore them, some say I married him for his money  but I work and I make my own money. etc


Has the age difference created any barrier in your  marriage?!..eg- communication

Nop but language has, he calls me an old soul, am wiser than my age. But we love different things, he doesn’t force me to do anything, so it’s easy eg when he is watching tv star strek, I will excuse my self to the room to watch cartoons, we respect each other privacy and we understand the ground rules to a successful marriage, communication.


Will you allow your daughter HONESTLY marry someone with this  age gap?

My Husband is 20 to 30 years older than me, some say I married him for his money but I work and I make my own money - Oluwatobi Uzoma Adams

If that’s what she wants why not, my mum and dad has 2 decades between them, my dad treat her like an angel, my dad will sit outside till my mum comes back from a long journey, he won’t sleep until he sees his wife so why not if that’s what she wants.


How do you keep the fire burning in your  marriage

New things everyday, lol. our love is real so we don’t have to do much but we communicate, we find something we can both love to do and we are considering of each other feelings, we don’t sleep with anger in our heart, we tell each other how much we love each other several times in a day , we forgive each other if need be and we talk things through.


Please describe your husband in few sentence.

My husband is the most caring, kindhearted , loving , easy to talk to and the love of my life.


What has been your greatest joy ever since you got married to him?

The day We got married and the day we held our first child .


What has been your  greatness fear as a interracial couple?

My Husband is 20 to 30 years older than me, some say I married him for his money but I work and I make my own money - Oluwatobi Uzoma Adams

I have no fear with my husband by my side but racism is a major factor.


Do you have any to say to people who will love to get married to other race ?

Follow your heart ❤️


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8 Warning signs your partner is secretly unhappy

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When our relationships are great, we feel happy, assured, and empowered. But what if you suspect that your partner is… unhappy?

The sad truth is that sometimes, no matter what we do, your partner can secretly feel unhappy about the relationship you’re in.

And because most people tend to avoid conflicts, it is very likely that your partner won’t be willing to share about it.

If you are concerned that something is missing from your relationship, here are a few signs your partner is unhappy or at least irritated. Let’s take a look.

1. Your Partner Keeps Reminding You Of The Past Issues

A tell-tale sign that your partner is unhappy is the tendency to fight over the past problems or something that you’ve done in the past.

This can happen when your partner is unhappy AND unconsciously looking for a way to justify these feelings by creating a fight where there shouldn’t be one.

2. Your Partner Has Unexplained Mood Swings

If your partner seems to be happy at the moment but transforms into a grumpy or angry person shortly after and without a particular reason, it might be a sign of ongoing inner conflict. Specialists believe this happens because of a person’s inability to discuss what makes him or her unhappy and it results in one being sensitive and irritated. Unexplained bursts of anger can also signal that your partner is unhappy and tired of giving effort for your relationship.

3. Your Partner Gives You Silent Treatments

If you used to be the couple who couldn’t wait to chit-chat about their day-to-day activities, silent treatment, or something that closely resembles it could also be a sign that your partner is unhappy. In it’s purest form, a silent treatment will follow after a fight and last for a pretty long time, but it can happen even without a fight.

4. Your Partner Does Not Listen To You

If you are trying to resolve a problem and your partner shuts you off, it might be a sign that your partner is unhappy – he is just not interested to find a mutual consensus. Yet, even though it might seem like a mission impossible, re-engaging in a conversation could be really helpful here.

5. Your Partner Talks About His / Her Colleagues… A Lot

No one is happy to hear their partner constantly chatting about those “awesome coworkers”… But since we spend most of our time in workplaces, it happens quite often. Noticing that your partner can’t stop talking about colleagues can be a sign that’s something is missing in your relationship and it makes your loved one focus on other people.

6. Your Partner Compulsively Buys Unnecessary Stuff

Some studies observed that men, just like women, are prone to compulsive shopping and they do it when they feel unhappy in some part of their life, including their relationships. A sudden burst of new purchases might also be a sign that your partner is unhappy or unsure about the commitment to your relationship (therefore seeks value in possessions).

7. Your Partner Forgets (?) To Apologize

When your partner is unhappy, he can seem to forget to apologize after you’ve had a fight or disagreement. Yes, it’s pretty weird to feel that someone forgot to say “sorry”, especially if that person was the one who started a fight. Mostly, it happens when a partner believes that there is nothing else to do about the situation or still feels angry inside even though the problem is sorted out.

8. Your Partner Hides His / Her Phone
This is more than a sign that your partner is unhappy… It might tell you that your partner is looking for someone else. Being extremely careful with one’s smartphone could mean that your partner is trying to hide something and it’s one of the most important signs your partner is unhappy.

 


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